Introvert or extrovert: Getting the most out of your personality

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Conversely, when you spend too much time battling your own nature, the opposite happens: you deplete yourself. I’ve met too many people living lives that didn’t suit them—introverts with frenetic social schedules and extroverts with jobs that required them to sit in front of their computers for hours at a stretch. —Susan Cain

 It’s almost like a trend now. Being a loner or being social is not cool—neither or should be promoted to what is trending. What is cool, is being your authentic self. Believe me, there’s cool in being an introvert or extrovert, but that’s only if it reflects your true nature. I am not a shy person and I’m great with people, but I’d much rather be in a small group or just by myself. It’s best that I learned this about myself, because it can interfere with the quality of my life: jobs, friends and family get affected by my introversion. I’d rather write than to speak, skip the club just to eat. I learned that I do like a extroverted activities but knowing my limits were important; why deplete myself?

I have friends who go out every weekend and they truly love that lifestyle; one weekend in the house would drive them up a hill. I prefer to drive myself down a hill and stay in or spend an easy-going evening with some close friends. Journalistic endeavors do force me to be in a more social setting, but I work it to the best of my ability.

“We all have to do things that don’t come naturally… some of the time. But it shouldn’t be all the time. It shouldn’t even be most of the time.” —Susan Cain

For ambitious purposes, we’ll all have to enter a frame that isn’t comfortable or natural, but in order for the picture to be seen in full, we have to make adjustments. The problem can occur if we make too much of an adjustment and go against the person we naturally are.

As you feel—will manifest into what you are outwardly doing. So as you think, so you will act, in due time. Make no mistake to forget that your inner thoughts and feelings will reflect upon your outward demeanor, some way. It’s much easier to accept who you are than to try to change self. Acknowledge, accept then adapt, but never reject your true self because that will lead to depletion.

Completion over depletion. Sanity and balance is my true destination through challenges—working towards manifestation.