To suppress or digest? That is the true question. Quick fixes aren’t an actual fix and there’s fixation in addictive actions. The reality is, it only subdues the real pain—it’s avoidance to the core and many like myself go through it daily and don’t accordingly divert. My closest friends know that I don’t want to avoid any pain and suffering—I endure in my lifetime—encouraging them to do the same. Rather than avoid it, I offer acceptance and try to understand its purpose. Finding that “it” is an ambitious and self-fulfilling task. When I smoke or drink to get away from my issues, the issues ensue with a bigger purpose and gain power that tower over my life endeavors, bringing all good to an end, eventually; maximum satisfaction over short-term pleasure.
“In terms of happiness, we are all like the alcoholic who drinks to stop the depression that escalates with every drink, or the junkie who shoots up in order to get relief from the suffering—that increases with every fix.” —Pema Condron
We build chains from temporary relief. Each metal link represents short-term pleasure. We can build this chain forever, but personally, I don’t want to continue on the same route without knowing somewhat of a destination; it becomes redundant and lacks growth. I’d love for someone to tell me the seeds they’ve harvested in growing an “avoidance plant.” You’ll never bloom in that specific realm.
In continuum, we strengthen our ability to substitute pain with temporary relief, instead of attempting to understand the pain and attack it. Missing comprehension, we compound suffering, delaying our blessings—disguised with mask. We are all different and handle life’s hardships differently. There’s a “struggle against the nature of reality” that I want to do away with.
There’s fear that exists in being present with your pain. We’re so quick to move out of pain without understanding. Of course, we don’t want the pain to stay, but we must not rid what we don’t understand yet. Meditation has become important for me. As I sit still and grasp what energy is sculpting my reality, I gain understanding reach for deeper purposes. I strip down my ego and investigate. I think about what brings me pain and discomfort, followed by inquisitive thoughts on why the pain and discomfort exist in the first place. As I meditate, I contemplate on how I feel, that’s step one for me. It’s vital to know that meditation isn’t used to feel good about one’s self, but to observe one’s self, whether good or bad. Inquisitive, I question what brought me that positive or negative place. Through this practice, I can also do better with time, because self-management helps improve your time management.
There’s chaos that is external but I can’t to do anything about. Not because it’s above me, but because I have yet to deal with the chaos that goes on in my own soul. Internal resolution is a life-long practice. The resolution for me deteriorates if I don’t deliberately practice. If you practice anything, you’re bound to get better in some way or another, but you can also lose the ability if you don’t keep it up—turning it loose and underperforming in nature.
Nobody truly wants discomfort, but discomfort can turn into motivation once we realize what results from an uncomfortable feeling and time in our lives. It’s important to know why you choose discomfort rather than pleasure. Going through discomfort can lead you down a path of comfortable living—maximum satisfaction. The more we embrace short-term pleasure with open arms, the more likely it is that the discomfort will only spread and over rule the pleasure. Is it worth it? Seek out your discomfort and attack it. Avoidance creates annoyance for a harder future—which you can’t toss in the past and only gives you satisfaction for that present moment. Yes, we want to be present with our thoughts, but not if they’re not our true thoughts.
The act of accepting your pain and learning it, comes from a disciplined mindset. Without discipline, we may attempt to pick out the rough ends, but we come to no conclusions due to our lack of focus.